I'm stuck. Damnit...I don't know how to fix it.
I'm friends with a couple, but I'm more friends with each of them individually than with the two of them together. (This is a kinda clunky explanation, but I'm trying to work through it in my head as I write it.)
Now, the big issue at the moment is that she feels like she doesn't have many friends of her own. (All her friends are his friends, too.) I don't want her to feel like I'm just one of his friends who tolerates her, or like I'm only friends with her because I'm friends with him...because the friendship with her started first. The friendship with him just kind of jumped farther ahead all of a sudden.
I don't want to pick sides. I don't want to lose either of them. I don't want to cause problems between the two of them...
I've been in her position. I want to help...but I'm not sure I can. I feel like every time I take one step forward, I take two steps back...
I'm stuck.
Damnit.
I'm friends with a couple, but I'm more friends with each of them individually than with the two of them together. (This is a kinda clunky explanation, but I'm trying to work through it in my head as I write it.)
Now, the big issue at the moment is that she feels like she doesn't have many friends of her own. (All her friends are his friends, too.) I don't want her to feel like I'm just one of his friends who tolerates her, or like I'm only friends with her because I'm friends with him...because the friendship with her started first. The friendship with him just kind of jumped farther ahead all of a sudden.
I don't want to pick sides. I don't want to lose either of them. I don't want to cause problems between the two of them...
I've been in her position. I want to help...but I'm not sure I can. I feel like every time I take one step forward, I take two steps back...
I'm stuck.
Damnit.
Hard one! And delicate maybe a special lunch with just her will make her feel better. Or better yet one of your special gifts so she knows how much you cherish her.
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