I was talking to a friend the other day about relationship stuff. She has told me, multiple times, that she just doesn't understand polyamory, and that it seems way too complicated and complex. So, the other day, she asked if I'd met "Bob". It took me a minute to catch up to the fact that she was talking about "B.O.B"...Battery Operated Boyfriend.
She extolled Bob's virtues...saying that Bob is wonderful, and can solve all sorts of problems. My answer was something along the lines of "if that's all I was looking for, then yeah, Bob would be great. But I'm not."
So this morning, my brain started working through the things that Bob can't do...
1) Bob can't make me laugh.
2) Bob can't hold me when I cry.
3) Bob can't talk me through an anxiety attack.
4) Bob can't encourage me when I feel like I'm failing.
5) Bob can't congratulate me when I finally succeed.
6) Bob can't squeeze my hand when I feel like I need strength.
7) Bob can't help with my kids when I need it.
8) Bob can't tell me that needing help doesn't make me a bad mom.
9) Bob can't just be there with me, when I need someone, but am so burnt out that I can't engage with anyone.
10) Bob can't love me.
She extolled Bob's virtues...saying that Bob is wonderful, and can solve all sorts of problems. My answer was something along the lines of "if that's all I was looking for, then yeah, Bob would be great. But I'm not."
So this morning, my brain started working through the things that Bob can't do...
1) Bob can't make me laugh.
2) Bob can't hold me when I cry.
3) Bob can't talk me through an anxiety attack.
4) Bob can't encourage me when I feel like I'm failing.
5) Bob can't congratulate me when I finally succeed.
6) Bob can't squeeze my hand when I feel like I need strength.
7) Bob can't help with my kids when I need it.
8) Bob can't tell me that needing help doesn't make me a bad mom.
9) Bob can't just be there with me, when I need someone, but am so burnt out that I can't engage with anyone.
10) Bob can't love me.
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