Monday 27 January 2014

Important things to remember regarding relationships

I know friends have been concerned lately. Yes, things have been rough between Phil and I and there are things we're needing to work on. We are working on our problems, and will be fine. Talking to some friends, there are some things I've realized lately.

Relationships are complicated, because they involve people. Still, sometimes things get very rough, and it's important to remember a few things.


1) Bad times don't erase or negate the good times.

There was a time you were happy in your relationship. Whether that relationship is a friendship or a life partnership or something in between, you have a relationship with this person for a reason. You invited this person into your life and have shared a piece of yourself with them. You wouldn't have done that if you didn't care, and if you weren't happy together.

2) Good times don't erase or negate the bad times.

If there are problems in your relationship, a good day/weekend/week does not mean that everything is fixed and that issues no longer need to be addressed. Having a good day together reminds you that the relationship is worth saving. It gives a reminder of the good times in the past, and a window to the good times in the future.
Also, a good day is just that...a good day. Enjoy it! Don't over analyze it and turn it into something bad. Appreciate it for the gift it is.
Take the time to breathe and relax, then dive back into working on the issues that have been stressing your relationship. It likely won't be easy, but it will be worth it.

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